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Boudoir as a Gift to Myself

A small intro here: this was written by an actual client! she explains better the reasons to do a boudoir session better than me :)
I needed to re-read this. So I am giving it the 2019 update. This post from 2011 is one of the reasons I love boudoir and what makes women feel. Feeling sexy instead of trying to be sexy by society standards.  Leigh was awesome to write this for me, and it was awesome to see her again in 2018 still a strong woman embracing her super feminine side.

Guest Post: A Gift to Myself at 75
by Leigh

The idea of doing a Boudoir photo session started off as a gift to my boyfriend for his birthday.  While it still is a sexy little gift for him, it turned into a bigger gift to myself.    I’ve even showed the pictures to a few girlfriends, and they’ve been inspired to do something similar.

At first, it felt a bit indulgent to want to do this. 

Then I thought – why? If I can’t feel good about my body and feel sexy when I’m happy, healthy and in a good place in my life – when will that ever happen?

I decided to get over the self-doubt, the judgment, forget about what anyone else would think, and just go for it.  So I booked my session with Marlen. 

I trusted Marlen, and because of her, I felt really comfortable doing something I don’t ordinarily do every Saturday.  

I wanted to see what it was like to FEEL genuinely sexy and sexual through my own eyes, instead of trying to BE sexy by someone else’s standards. 

 I wanted to get in touch with my incredibly feminine side.

I wanted to remember that being a girl is FUN

I wanted to know that feeling sexy doesn’t mean you have to compromise your dignity, your pro-womanhood, and it doesn’t have to be degrading to other women. 

And, I wanted some kick ass pictures to prove it!

Well, I got what I wanted.

I can’t tell you what an amazing experience it was.  Plus, I feel a little bad ass, I gotta say.  And it feels really, really, good.

I realized that not only was I doing this for my boyfriend who appreciates me no matter what I am or am not wearing, but that I was doing it for myself and that, even though I wore red lipstick for the first time, I don’t need lipstick to feel good about myself.   

When I’m 75, I’m going to look back on these photos and appreciate them.  This gift to myself at 75 is that I had the good sense to feel good about my body and get in touch with a whole new side of myself on my own terms, with Marlen’s help.

So I say life’s short.  Go for the red lipstick and just see what a different side of you can be like.

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Finding Your Perfectly Fitting Swimsuit - Guest Post

Note: This is a guest post, and looking for images to use I realized that I do have some in bathing suits for pinup poses, but not one on the actual beach. Available for hire to go somewhere warm- wink wink.

Finding Your Perfectly Fitting Swimsuit

Dreaming of warmer days, sandy beaches, and tropical getaways? You aren’t the only one. The best part about escaping to warmer weather is shopping for new clothes. However, most women don’t exactly get excited over the idea of swimsuit shopping. No matter what size, shape or age you are, it can be a little defeating trying to find a swimsuit you feel comfortable. Which is exactly why this little guide was created. Now you can find that perfectly fitting swimsuit that gives you the confidence you deserve. It really is possible to do so without having to try on 20 others before you finally just end up settling on the one you feel the least uncomfortable in.

1.    Figuring it Out 

You’re probably familiar with the body type guide: apple, pear, hourglass, and straight. Of course, it’s very unlikely you are one specific shape to a T. However, narrowing down your body type will help you figure out which swimsuit is going to be right for you. Women with smaller busts should look for ruffles, stripes, or padded style tops. If you’re a bit on the bustier side, look for supportive styles like halter tops or a top with a built-in underwire. You can even find d-cup swimsuits from designers and brands who create swimwear for women with larger busts. If you’re a little bottom heavy, go for a lower-rise cut. Don’t be afraid of revealing some skin. A lower-rise cut or rings on the side can give the illusion of smaller hips. Darker colored bottoms can also help to minimize your lower torso, too.

2.    Show off your Assets 

The best bikini body is your bikini body. So, don’t be afraid to show off and show out a little. Patterns, colors, and embellishments can make your best features shine. Things like jewels, tassels, fringe, and any other eye-catching addition can help draw the eyes away from any place you feel self-conscious about. Look for interchangeable pieces like a fun, embellished top and a darker bottom. Or a supportive top or  women’s tankini swimwear, and fun, flirty bottoms.

3.    Get Outside your Comfort Zone 

Swimsuits are like shoes; you can never have too many. Unlike shoes, you can mix and match the suits for endless options. Experimenting with new styles, colors, prints, and patterns can be fun. So don’t be afraid to get a little outside your comfort zone. Why not trade that tankini for a supportive halter style? Or switch up the two-piece for a fun and flirty one piece.

4.    Create an illusion 

Did you know that detailing like ruching or shirring can create a slimming effect? Shirring refers to the tightly woven gathers in the fabric. This tight weaving not only holds you in but it’s basically magic for all figures and body types. It can hide any bulging and is very forgiving on your waist and curves. Ruching can be characterized by draped and gathered fabric. Ruching along the midsection can hide your tummy and keep you looking cute. Surprisingly, all over prints can actually hide a full bust or conceal a bulging tummy. So, seriously, don’t be afraid to try a swimsuit in a color other than navy or black.

Finding Your Perfect Fit 

Whatever you’re looking for, finding the perfect swimsuit is all about highlighting your best assets, and identifying an effortless fit and cut. Be mindful and honest with yourself about which cuts and silhouettes work, colors that highlight the best of your summer complexion, and fabrics that work no matter where you are. No matter what, be true to yourself and be 100% confident!

Author Bio: Andrew Hoffman is a freelance writer and journalist from Los Angeles, CA, who has written on behalf of wide range of clients including the Demand Media and Livestrong Network. In addition to writing about a range of topics, he loves to travel and is a pet lover. He enjoys working out at gym in his spare time.

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Why boudoir is a great gift for the woman in your life...

Besides the benefit of your partner getting sexy images that you get to enjoy after, I think it sends a message of:

And this is good for our self-steem, bonus points if you can make that Ryan Gosling smouldering look.

So not only you get sexy art, she gets:

  • The surprise: "oh my lordy, what the hell have you gotten me into."
  • The getting ready and pampering part of removing the extra fuzz, and she will be extra-nice  if you add a gift certificate for a mani-pedi, or a spa treatment.
  • The chance to dust off the lingerie, even an excuse to buy a few new items. Everybody needs a new nice bra set. The latex is optional.
  • The photoshoot part, is about a nice girly time, getting the makeup done and general goofiness.  Alcohol is allowed. I am telling your partner to get on all fours and lick her finger. 
  • The result: Most clients are like:" wow, I didn't think I could pose sexy!" Which, let's face it, we do not feel sexy that often, especially after kids or being in a relationship for a while.

Not that I am claiming to be like Dr. Phil or anything but from experience and as a witness to several women enjoying the whole experience and feeling great about themselves after... what are you waiting for?

SO! get a gift certificate from your local boudoir photographer, or me, even better, wrap it up in a pair of stockings or new undies, and write a lovely note.

Email me or purchase directly here: and you will be sent a personalized gift certificate. 

In the event, that she is like "no way", she can still use the certificate for a glamour photo session (no lingerie) and have a really nice photo. Or put it towards some family photos. I do those too.

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FAQ: What to wear - the Sport item edition

So you see this all over Pinterest. More when the teams are actually winning.
The man in your life loves the darn game. So take a photo with the shirt. Even better the scarf. I am digging the scarf more as you can be pretty much naked under it.

Why are these so popular? I am guessing is two things, the contrast between something masculine on your femenine acting (well, because we don't always act very ladylike- like currently slouching on a desk with my legs open) There is a little bit of ownership as well. Like: "that sexy woman is mine!" She is wearing my thing! me like! And of course, the sport itself. 

Here are some tips to rock the sporty stuff:

When the shirt is giant, you actually do not have to wear it. Just hold it in front of you like so: Way more flattering and again, points if you wear nothing under it. Maybe even do it for a game too, just maybe not an important one.

Note: see how we are grabbing the shirt and cupping boobs up at the same time? SCIENCE

Really liking this! There are more soccer things but hey, if you find one with the leafs or raptors go for it. BONUS: buy one and then wrap the photo in it and give it as a present. win-win. Extra points for socks!

This one is more easy to achieve since it can be snuck out with no problem. Small, fits anywhere.
And topless and a hat just works.

So do not stress about trying to sneak in your boyfriend's apartment on game day to steal a shirt (true story) grab something simple! Winners has stuff in the boys department. Go crazy there and do not spend too much.

And the ULTIMATE sample of a sport boudoir idea was from a couple, that booked the hotel that faces the Rogers Centre. So they could watch the game after. 

And always, if you have any questions, email me :) I check my email too much. (according to my husband)

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Excuses to use to book and get your boudoir shoot done.

Yes, the ladies have to sneak around and keep it on the down low from their hubbies, or hubbies to be, or even their "too curious" friends.

The Excuse:

Here are some good excuses for the day off.
  • Spa day "I bought a Groupon for a spa day with makeup application so I will be gone a couple of hours"
  • Hair Dresser "Yes, I just went to the hairdresser but she has to fix a highlight and it will take a while"
  • Wedding Makeup trial  "we are doing another test - not sure I liked the first one"
  • Your crazy friend is having a glamour shoot and you are coming along for support. 

Keep it simple, as soon as they hear something girly like makeup and hair, their mind strays. This way you can come home all done up and even maybe go out with your nice makeup and lashes.

The Lingerie:

Now the trickiest part I think is to sneak out with a bag full of underwear and sexy things. Especially difficult when you live together. Good thing they are not heavy.
  • A good gym bag can carry most of it. 
  • If you can stash it in the car the day before great. 
  • Leave it at a trusted friends house.
Or just blame it on a friend/sister that is borrowing some stuff for a photo shoot. Don't give details :P

See? It all fits on a large handbag. The shoes are the bulkiest item. 

Note: Don't stress about getting one of his items to wear that he might miss, like his hockey jersey on game night. I'm sure he will like the other pics:)

And lastly, you can shoot on what you are wearing. That white t-shirt with no bra or his favourite band shirt.

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How to do your own boudoir shoot with a phone - update

Inspired by my popular post "how to shoot your own boudoir photos" and this picture which title is:
"NUMBER ONE USE OF CAMERA PHONES THESE DAYS" (Get naked and take pictures)

Yes, we have all done it. Good thing we are not famous- yet.
Now, this post is about how to take your naked selfies to the next level.

Here is my attempt to eradicate those pictures taken in the washroom mirror - the horror.
Fine. I can't eradicate them for good since we still have to take a picture of the outfit #OOTD we are wearing that day and post it.

But for sexy pictures in your underwear- Please use this.

Photos from when the original article was published in 2010 (DANG!) on an iPhone 4 and about 15 pounds (pre-Lily) less and different hair. This only reinforces my thought on "you look awesome right now". Do not wait for when I do x. Time flies.

1: Get your room ready. 
My room does not look like this every day. Everything goes into the closet and the catch-all drawers.
Pay special close attention to clutter on surfaces, I know usually nobody is going to look behind you if your cleavage is right there, but don't be that chick of the selfie mouse on the floor 

Thank goodness for push up bras. Aren't they awesome? And my Batman undies. I nerded out for this shoot. Tips on what to wear are here.
Makeup. Pile it on.  Youtube has amazeballs makeup tutorials, don't get lost in the rabbit hole so make sure you actually do this first. This one she creates a Victoria Secret model look. She can do anything.


After you prop it on a chair like I did or get one of those gadgets to stick your phone on surfaces, set it up to Time Lapse Option so you have some time to move around. Make sure you have enough memory so back up all your photos before attempting this. You will need the space. 

All right here you go, it is way easier when no one is looking :). And you are actually looking at yourself in the phone so it helps. If you are shooting video set your iPhone horizontally - but for photos vertically it's ok.
So start the goofiness. Use props. More tips on what to do click here Just remember, you are on your knees here so move around. Go on all fours. You can think of something :P Avoid using the digital zoom, it ain't pretty.

5: EDITING: There are tons of apps out there, for simplicity I use Snapseed others even change your body shape. But if you already feel sexy in your underwear and makeup, this looks better than what an app can do.

What not to do:
besides losing your phone with all those pictures- or sending them to a  jerk
All I see is the toilet.
Almost... good try, the darn toilet paper got in the way. Push that tush.
So if you must... this is a good example. Almost no crap and all you see are boobs. It's purpose is to tease. If you ever break up - there is no face! just awesome boobs.

And also points for clean mirrors! Anyway- hope you just set the self-timer and start having fun without holding your phone.

And lastly, do not forget to back up the photos from your phone, back them up on your computer.

Or if you are feeling fancy there is a new digital frame that connects to your phone. Can you imagine having this aura frame while you are away on a girls night out or even shopping to be more realistic and have it set up remotely to play your sexy photos? HA.  And it also has a NSFW setting in case your in-laws are visiting you can turn the naughty ones off. I need one of these things. They also have a handy guide to take better pictures. Clothing optional! Just be careful if you are outside :P you do not want to flash people.

Have fun! I do have a thing for Batman

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5 Traveling tips from a photographer

I am trying really hard to make "snowbirding" happen. Yeah like a verb.

My dream is to work winters in Mexico (after Valentine's day so I can finish those orders) 
And stay until is warm in Toronto (maybe May). But with kids and their school and all that stuff I can't, this is the longest I have been away before my youngest starts kindergarten and I did not organize it very well. I need to share some tips I learned along the way.

I was gung-ho about staying for free at my mom's place, being in the warmth and eating tacos. Lot's of tacos.

Realization number 1
We brought too much stuff. By we I mean my daughter and husband. I am almost done creating a capsule wardrobe since I wear black all the time I do not worry about looking like I am wearing the same thing. I am, and pfft, I really do not care. In the other hand, my rainbow inspired daughter and husband have all the colours to mix and match and specific things that go with specific things.

Next time we are keeping it to 3 casual outfits, one warmer outfit to travel from the cold to here and in case it gets chilly, 3 summer outfits and one formal one, that is it! #blackoutfitsallmatch #greyisacolour #makeupdoesnotcount

Realization number 2
If you are staying with family, have a backup plan. Learned it the hard way. Thanks to Airbnb and Trivago (last minute hotel). #familytelenovela #pricklypears #iambeingnice

Realization number 3
Camera gear is heavy AF. I normally shoot with a Nikon d800 (team Nikon!) but for a lighter version, I travel with my backup Nikon D7000, 250 grams lighter. UGH. So with my intention of grabbing a lot of photos for stock and backgrounds I have to lug what feels like 20 kilos of gear. And then I end of taking lots of photos with my phone, just because I am too lazy to carry the 20 kilos. So I end up using my camera for exactly 2 days out of the 45-day trip.  I need  this compact camera. I will try to be good so I can get it for xmas, pfft, not likely. #LGvsNikon  #VantagePoint
Photo with a cell phone, improved with a filter. We had to take a photo of the muffin tree. Good thing it's a short tree.

Taken with Nikon D700, fast enough and sharp enough

Realization number 4
The internet, you need it. Unlock your phone before you leave the country! Then buy a sim card for your stay and get a pay as you go package. 
#wifisavessanity #shades #selfies #becausethatismyangle

Realization number 5
Google maps IS your best friend. Cities like Guadalajara are not in a grid. More like a puzzle piece. And even if you do not have a data plan, map the location you are going to, and do not close the app, your location services on your phone will let you know exactly where you are at all times, even if the map doesn't update, your location will with the blue dot. #googlemap #savesrelationships #iwasright #noneedtoaskfordirections #lostgringo #googleknowswhereyoupee

And lastly, calories during vacation do not count, especially when you are walking around and getting lost. #allthetacos

This is what I mean for stock photo, I usually shoot people, so it is a nice change to shoot pretty blooms.  #realphotos 

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